Dr. Judith Herman refers to relational trauma as;
Trauma, particularly trauma inflicted on one person by another, constitutes relational trauma and is characterized by a “violation of human connection."
Dr. Barbara Steffens, leading partner trauma specialist describes relationship trauma like this:
Relational trauma, often called attachment injuries, occurs when one person betrays, abandons, or refuses to provide support for another person with whom he or she has developed an attachment bond."
Typically, what happens for couples struggling with sexual addiction is that when one partner is triggered the other partner becomes triggered as well, and the couple falls down the proverbial rabbit hole known as the “trauma vortex.” Couples experience this as a very painful cycle of relational rupture, whereby each partner becomes the source of danger to the other and the relationship becomes unsafe.
Together, we will help you to create a “safe haven” within the context of your relationship. I use a multi-dimensional model to provide the most individualized and thorough treatment, including: Imago therapy to promote healthy communication and empathic attunement, Emotionally-Focused Couples Therapy to understand and change their trauma informed relationship pattern and cycle, and Sensorimotor Trauma Therapy to process the multitude of trauma that couples experience.
At the heart of every great relationship is a secure attachment base. This includes love, trust, safety, and knowledge that “my partner gets me and will walk through fire with me.” As your therapist/coach, I will partner with you to slay the dragon of sexual addiction.